Coping Mechanism

Assalamualaikum,

i do noticed since Q3 2019 my mind picked up an interesting coping mechanism towards negative emotions.

hurt me?
-lol okay

ditched me?
-huhu sad but cool ^^

mad at me?
-yeah what's next

disappointed?
-i suck it up & move on

I do feel the sadness, the disappointment, the sorrow and the anger but I managed to have it in control. It's not easy but I keep trying and trying.
my mind starts to understand that it's pointless to torture myself when they just don't care and they don't feel guilty bout it anyway.

i made the same shits towards others, too. we're flawed anyway.

don't suppress your feelings. it's okay to feel sad but it's not worth your precious time to prolong the grief over unnecessary shits.

not gonna lie, i can feel the improvement of my mental health when my mind changed the way it reacts towards negative feelings.

when you don't care that much, your energy can be focused on more important things that actually added value to your life 😉

Remember: You can't control people's actions, but you can control your reactions.

Let's rewire the mind 😗

I'm Back, again.

Assalamualaikum,

I'm back, again. berapa kali hiatus pun tak tahu dah hahaa but this time, 3 years hiatus. fuhh.

How's life, fellas? Hope you're doing great despite the shits 2020 keep throwing at us. fr.

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Mine is fine I think, better if I may.

Just got out of an exhausting relationship. uhm. 4 years huh.

I didn't deny that I truly loved him when we were together, but it's draining my energy at the same time to force myself to tolerate with his bs and incompetency.

Never again to settle for less when I know I deserve better. I know it at the very beginning, but I keep telling myself that things will be better. a joke.

I know my worth, mediocrity ain't it.

Proud of myself for having the ability to move on quite fast, based on my past romantic relationships. I mean, I have this mindset that I would control my mind to stop grieving over someone who don't even care. I don't wanna be seen as weak and pathetic. Heyy, I do grieved, but in moderate manner. I let it all go in one shot and live like a normal girl, again.

Don't get me wrong. This is how I cope with a heartbreak. I know everyone copes things differently, try to identify or know your pace, you'll get better eventually. If you need more time, plenty of it, just do it. As long as you keep trying and there's progress, I know you can do this. Just hit me up if you need someone to talk bout this.

Plus, I think one of the reasons why I redha with the fate that God has written for me is because I know I've tried my very best till the end to make it work, to fight for our relationship so that I would never felt "I wish i could do better" feeling. The regret would drag you down and slowdown your recovery.

If it's not meant to be, then it won't.

But remember, just because some people seem to move on easily, it doesn't mean they don't love hard enough. Only God know how hard we've loved one another. no ragretz.

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I'm happier now. I feel grateful for everything that has happened.

p/s: I'm truly sorry if I offended anyone through this post.

I'll talk about my new coping mechanism in the next post. See ya!